Fear Factors Exposed

Psychologists tell us we are born with only two fears – fear of Falling and fear of Loud Noises. These two fears are inherent in the human DNA and have become a mechanism for survival, which is passed on to new generations. The single aim of these inborn fears is to keep humans alive and motivated in order to avoid potential dangers.

Every other fear is 'learned response' from our environment, knowledge and experience. Therefore, if it can be learned, it can be unlearned too. For this reason, I would like to share FOUR common fears that have rendered many powerless and impact-less whilst full of potential inside:

1:: Fear of Rejection

We all like to be liked and loved by everybody and to this end we manipulate (use: deception, power, money and influence) situations and people to be liked – even when we know the liking is not genuine. We work so hard to get people's approval and once we get their approval we live in constant fear of losing it…it is a bondage and a lonely place to be – we dare not be ourselves, lest we are rejected. Thus, we project what we be believe people want to hear and see from us.

THE ROOT of fear of rejection is lack of (or low) self-esteem|self-love often arising from self-identity issues (usually from childhood negative experiences). A person who has NOT identified (or reject) WHO they are will often seek identity through others for without them he|she is nothing|nobody.

2:: Fear of Failure

We often attach our self-worth to our performance and worse still link self-worth to love and acceptance. We shudder to the thought of attempting anything we believe may not succeed for if we fail to perform, our self-worth, value, will diminish and there goes the love and acceptance we yearn for. We will never dare to think, let alone act, outside the box (comfort zone). We will go to any length to hide our failures and parade our success even embellish them.

THE ROOT cause of fear of failure is, in many instances, lack (or ignorance) of self-worth|self-value arising from not knowing our value is intrinsic to WHO we are and not WHAT we do.

3:: Fear of Criticism

Fear of criticism stems from fear of failure; we know that criticism comes from failure to perform to the standard of people whose approval we yearn. We fear criticism because most of the time what we do is a performance to get people to like us. We become enslaved to pleasing people for we fear their rejection. But Sooner or later we realize people are un-predictable, what they loved you for today is not necessarily what will draw them to you tomorrow.

THE ROOT cause of fear of criticism stems from inferiority complex, believing we are inferior to those whose criticism matters to us. Think about this, i] anyone can be a critic – it is easy, ii] critics are after performers – people whose work is significant.

4:: Fear of Unknown

Fear of unknown is another learned response [mental obstacle] aimed to keeping us safe from the dangers looming in the areas we have not treaded before. Unfortunately, if you are to get what you have never had, you have to do what you have never done. Just because it has not been done, it does not mean it cannot be done – can you dare to be the first, do you have the guts to be the pioneer, inventor, and forerunner?

THE ROOT of fear of unknown is fear of what we do not know and consequently cannot control. I believe the best way to term this fear is to become conversant and confident on our purpose [vision|purpose|mission] you are in control of YOUR DESTINY.

Tim Kyara

ePastor|Hekima Consultant 

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