A man walked into a
concourse of a premium exclusive banking hall in New York and casually strolled
towards the available Teller; half-way to the window, the security and the bank
hallway supervisor grabbed him and pulled him to the side door – he was clearly
out of place from the way he was dressed, surely a man dressed in a cheap suit and
shoes, carrying an old suitcase like him could not be one of their customers,
after all they are a premium exclusive bank. With that in mind, he was
As he strolled out, he
turned around, removed a shabby hat and showed them his ID. It was Mr Henry Ford
(Founder – Owner of Ford Motors); he was their No.1 customer, banking more than
half of the other customers combined. Long story short, Mr Ford changed bank
despite numerous apologies from the bank.
I must admit, Mr Ford was
a bit unfair because it is a reality of life that people will judge you FIRST
by your external appearance. BUT, again it is a powerful lesson to us all that –
though we tag and label people initially by outward appearance, we should not
stop there, find out more – dig a little
deeper. Just because he is in an expensive suit, does not mean he is a
genuine businessperson, he could be a bank robber or a conman.
But I want to go a little
deeper, I would like to propose that we search
inward and see how many times we have written ourselves out based on the
way we look today or in the past. We idolise others we see on TV, Internet and
Newspaper – we compare them to our present and past and we tell ourselves "we
don't belong" to that class and we shove ourselves out.
Pay attention to the inward dialog that you have when you
encounter someone or something that you feel is Superior to you. What do you
tell yourself? Do you disqualify yourself from the race even before you begin
to run it? Remember, you lose 100% of the race that you don't run, but if you
run, even when you don't win the first place you may get consolation prize and
get the experience to run better next time – who knows.
The most detrimental force is not from others telling us where we don't belong; the most powerful force comes from within when we tell ourselves that we don't belong. When we reach a place where we already have convinced ourselves that we don't belong, it does not matter anymore - no amount of inspiration or motivation will help. At this moment, the only hope that you have comes from Education - enlightenment - someone to help you see from within.
My intention today is to
inspire you to think before you say, "I
don't belong", how many times you have said inwardly, I don't belong with people who have incredible wealth;
I don't belong with people who have wonderful marriages and family; I don't
belong with people who have more money than the can spend in their entire life;
I don't belong with people who are learned…and with that you walk away from
their presence and deny yourself the opportunity to get what you know you
earnestly desire.
The fact that you see and
desire those things, it is a proof that there is something in you that says –
we belong with that, give it a go – besides you have nothing to lose, since
even if you lose, you gain experience and wisdom.
My Counsel?
Get Closer to the people who have what you desire,
clearly they know and do something you don't. Pay the Price it takes to Learn
and Apply the Knowledge from them
and for heaven's sake, Stop Idolizing
and Worshipping them – give them their due respect but remember they are
just like you but with little knowledge and experience that you need.
Blessing Your Way
//WORD
Tim Kyara
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