– WHAT is Normal?
Normal is what we have accepted as Okay, usual and|or typical but more importantly normal is what is Expected, other factors considered, normal is what is typically
agreed to be a standard considering what it is, place, people
and environment around it.
For
instance, it is normal, in some places (and usually expected and contingency set for it) for people
to be late while in other places it is not normal and never tolerated. Same thing,
normal in one setting and outright offensive in another.
WHERE do we get our DEFINITION of NORMAL?
Usually we look
back (past and present) to decide what is normal and what is not. If we all had
one eye, a person with two eyes will appear to be not normal and perhaps a
monster – but today two eyes are normal and one is not.
The sad thing
with normal is, once we accept the 'normal' that has been handed down to us; we
resign inwardly, "this is the way it is supposed to be", we think and
never question it or raise a finger to try and change it. Whatever it is, will
remain that way until kingdom come.
Here are a few
things that we objectively call 'normal':
-normal to need
(your) money to make more money,
-poor
performance in school = poor performance in life,
-normal income,
given my education, qualification and experience,
-not having own
money is reason for being poor, broke and broken,
-feeling
inferior towards those with more money, power or education,
-believe only
what we see with natural eyes – discredit everything else,
-not attempting
(thubutu) what others haven't done or done but failed,
-kazi ya Mungu
haina makosa:: God's doing is without fault|error
Ask yourselves
this, how many things have you accepted as normal and resigned to that fate?
Even right now you are struggling in your mind and thoughts of things you
believe are normal and should be left alone.
But what if
what you call normal is not normal but it is what it has been made to be? what
if what you resigned to be can actually change if you "change your
mind"? You can have your own normal – separate from everyone else, you
know!
HOW does one CHANGE his/her NORMAL?
We change our
normal by replacing old normal with a new normal – beginning with a thought, belief, word and action.
Normal means
comfortable, acceptable and expected…so when I change what is comfortable, acceptable (tolerated) and expected of me, I acquire a new
normal. We cannot change anything we tolerate. . . normal is our "comfort zone", if you are comfortable in your current comfort zone...that's it, you are done...it starts with
rejecting the current normal and embracing the new normal.
For instance,
if it is normal for you to fall sick (or be broke) every other day; start by being "uncomfortable" with this norm, begin telling (speak loudly to) yourself hourly and daily, "I am healthy and wealthy, this is my norm" [hint: do not affirm what you don't want, speak and affirm what you WANT as if it is already in and with you - that is faith]
If you keep
(persistently) telling yourself of this new normal - with intensity and passion, eventually you will believe it and more
importantly you will begin to SEE Doors of OPPORTUNITIES (ideas and
connections) that you will need to ACT upon to change your status quo and walaaa a new Normal appear.
How long this
will take to materialize for you will depend on how PASSIONATE you have become
in HATING, DISGUST of your current normal and ability to SEE inwardly your NEW normal as ALREADY in place. The more intense the passion the
quicker the result...but direct your passion in SEEING yourself in possession of the new norm than in dreading the current norm.
Try it today .
. . begin your journey of changing your normal!
Tim Kyara
.iLearn|.iTeach|.iCoach
