Introduction
We have all
adopted some kind of ''life philosophy'' through which we consciously or
sub-consciously build our life, one decision at a time. What we become, achieve and have is DIRECTLY related to the philosophy that we have chosen. Consequently, if you
don't see the results you would like to see in your life…it is time to pump the
bonnet open and scrutinize the philosophy that you have chosen to live by.
How life philosophy is built
We are born
with blank mind – no preconceived ideas or notion about anything; but as we
grow up – our environment (which controls what we experience and knowledge
we acquire) – begins to shape what we "believe" to be a 'safe' and
'best' way to navigate our life. We begin to write "internal programme" that will safeguard our future do's and
don'ts.
This 'internal
programme' is based solely on what we acquire from environment we live in,
experience we go through and knowledge imposed on us. Slowly but certainly we
begin to define who we are – our limits and boundaries – be they real or
imagined it does not matter…we accept them and refer to them every time we have
to make a choice or decision.
For example: a
baby does not have understanding (knowledge) to associate (or disassociate)
light and heat, so when it sees light, it crawls right to it seeking to 'touch'
out of curiosity. When it touches open flame, there and then a clear message is
'burnt' in that child's mind, "stay clear of flames"…and immediately
associate open flames with pain. God
has designed all living things to walk away from anyone or anything that causes
pain and pursue anyone or anything that has promise to pleasure and comfort.
As this (touching
flame) child grows, it will continue to stay clear of anything that has to do with
'flames' UNTIL someone comes along with a new knowledge, teach him/her how to
''handle'' flame safely and use flame to his/her advantage.
Now, if you
are honest, many of our life philosophies are based on our past ''burnt experiences",
pain. The philosophy is then an inbuilt servo
mechanism to avoid all chances of coming into contact with pain – never again.
Think about it, what is your philosophy on money, wealth, opposite sex
relationship, God, religion, work, business etc what is it based on? Is it not
based on pain, loss, discomfort experienced in the past – yours or of your
loved one?
How do you discover your
philosophy?
Ask yourself
critical questions and WRITE down answers…eg...what is
your philosophy on Money?
1. What is the
first experience you recall about money? (could be a
talk, conversation, earnings)
2. What is the
link between you and money? (this is a
relationship, connection)
3. Who
controls how much money you get? (could there be
a person who has monopoly?)
4. Who
controls when you are to
get a lot of money? (monopoly over money?)
5. What is the
first thing that comes to
mind when you think of 'lots of money'
How do you know if your
philosophy is sound?
For every Genuine,
there is a Fake (forgery, bogus); for every Authentic, there is Counterfeit
(imitation) and for every Original there is a Copy. Authentic manufacturers
worldwide spend
Here is a non-exhaustive
list to tell if you have sound life philosophy:
1. Materials – fake and forgeries are usually made from inferior
goods and services. When a philosophy is made from an inferior place just to
avoid ''pain, suffering and loss'' more often than not it will not be sound and
empowering. Yes we learn from our pain, mistakes and loss but we choose to make
our life philosophy exuding from faith,
love and hope not from fear, hate and despair.
Examine
your life philosophy (persuasion, conviction, belief) on any subject of choice, be it God, religion,
relationships, money, wealth, leadership, government, politics . . . is your
philosophy made out of faith, love and hope or fear hate and despair? If it is
the latter, it is bound to be unsound and will not produce your life full
potential.
2. Function – every forgery, fake, counterfeit will not have the
same level of function as the original, authentic, genuine. Any philosophy that
belittle, despise and play down your worth, value, ability and destiny is not
sound. Any philosophy that puts others on the pedestal will discriminate the
rest and it is based on false unsound premises.
Whatever
you see others do, you can do and chances are you can do faster and better. . .
"the only thing that stands between
you and your great future is you and your doubts"– Robert Kiyosaki. If
you don't see all the function you expected in your life, chances are you don't
have a sound philosophy, examine the basis of your philosophy in the area in
question.
3. Test of Time – all fake, counterfeit, imitations and copies do not
stand the test of time…sooner or later they will breakdown and crumble. Your
philosophy will be tested against time – endurance – if it is on solid
foundation (basis) it will stand otherwise it will collapse on weight and you
will fall with it.
Examine
your philosophy (persuasion, conviction, belief) on any area that you have trouble; if you always change your
philosophy based on what you experience, chances are you are on flimsy ground
and your basis for that philosophy are not sound. People who change their
philosophies frequently are usually flimsy, unstable and dangerous to deal
with.
Here are some
of my life-philosophies, feel free to adopt if you like them:
Area
|
Philosophy
|
God
|
God created everything
and one day we shall answer for what we did with 'time' granted on earth
|
Money
|
Money is not
a miracle, it is a reward for solving problems; the more problems solved more
money
|
Relationship
|
Relationship
should be based on mutual respect, adding value to each other else reconsider
|
Religion
|
Your religion is not good to me if it does not help
me, show me answers to my everyday issues
|
These are but
my philosophy, persuasions, conviction…they may be right, they may be wrong but
this is where I am today 03rd April 2014…I am a working progress.
//Tim J Kyara
Teacher/ePastor/Engineer/Mentor/Life
Coach
Clean Humour 2
Health www.laughin2health.blogspot.com
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